Still Life — Susan Hart

Still Life, is the story of a female architect who likes to be in control of her men and has often fantasized about a novel form of sex called immobile paraphilia, which is sex performed with objects such as a statue, a doll or a mannequin--something in human form that doesn't move. She meets an attractive man at a conference and hooks up with him but when he just can't leave well enough alone and takes control, she gets really pissed at him and tries to figure how to regain it.